Emotions, Thoughts & Frequency: The Trio Running Your Life (Whether You Like It or Not)

Erin Corman
Dec 16, 2025
4 min read

By Erin C. Corman, MS

Most people think their life is shaped by willpower, strategy, or whatever motivational quote slapped them across the face last week.

Cute… but wrong.

Your life is being run by one thing: your internal frequency — which is shaped by your emotions and the thoughts they trigger.

Once you understand how these three actually work, everything starts making sense. Patterns make sense. Triggers make sense. Your “why the hell do I keep doing this?” cycles make sense.

Let’s break it down.

Emotions: The Body’s First Language

Your body always speaks before your mind does. Always.

You feel:

A drop in the gut. A burn in the chest. A tight throat. A buzzing in the limbs

That sensation is the emotion. And emotions aren’t random or dramatic — they’re intelligence.

They reveal:

Where you’re carrying old patterns
Where your nervous system feels safe or unsafe
Where survival conditioning is still steering the wheel
Where truth is trying to surface

Ignoring emotions keeps you stuck. Feeling them moves you forward.

Thoughts: The Narrator Reacting to Your Emotional Weather

Here’s the thing most people get backwards:

Your thoughts are not leading the charge. Your emotional state is.

Your thoughts follow your frequency.

If your body is sitting in fear, your thoughts play detective for everything that could go wrong. If your body is sitting in shame, your thoughts dig up reasons you’re “not enough.” If your frequency is grounded, your thoughts start scanning for opportunity.

Your mind responds to your emotional climate — not the other way around. This is why forcing positive thinking never sticks. Your emotional frequency overrides the script every time.

Frequency: The Energy You Walk Around In

Everything has a frequency.

Emotions. Thoughts. Beliefs. Memories. People. Rooms. Patterns. Even the damn stories you keep telling yourself.

Your frequency is your emotional baseline — the charge you radiate without trying.

For most people, that baseline is shaped by:

Childhood survival strategies
Past pain
Unprocessed emotions
Stress
Old identity patterns

But once you shift your internal frequency? Everything — thoughts, choices, relationships, opportunities — reorganizes around the new signal you’re sending.

That’s not magic. That’s resonance and nervous system regulation.

Where the Real Work Lives: Emotions → Thoughts → Frequency → Identity

Let’s simplify:

Emotions carry frequency.

Thoughts respond to the emotional state.

The emotional state becomes your frequency.

Your frequency shapes your identity.

Your identity shapes your life.

This is why when people try to “fix their mindset,” they only get temporary results:

You can’t mindset your way out of a frequency that lives in your body.

You have to shift the emotional charge first.

Practical Ways to Shift Your Frequency (The Mini SI Method)

Somatic Integration — straight from This Is Your Wake Up Call: Ditch the Sabotage and Rewire the Sh*t Running Your Life.

This is the quick, grounded version of the deeper work found in Spark. MindShift. It’s not therapy, not analysis, not manifestation hacks — it’s nervous-system truth telling.

1. Locate the Feeling

Pause. Drop into your body. Ask yourself:

“Where is the strongest sensation right now?”

It might be heavy, tight, hot, buzzing, hollow, or locked up. Just find it. No judgment.

2. Let the Emotion Speak

Instead of shutting it down or naming it to death, simply acknowledge:

“This is the emotional frequency my body is holding.”

Stay with the sensation. Let it be uncomfortable. Let it be honest. This is where integration begins.

3. Honor What It’s Been Protecting

Every uncomfortable emotion, every contraction, every shadow pattern is trying to protect you from something — even if the strategy is outdated.

Ask gently:

“What has this feeling been trying to protect me from?”

Don’t analyze. Listen.

It might be guarding against rejection, failure, being seen, being alone, losing control, disappointing others, or repeating old pain. Honoring it diffuses the intensity.

4. Shift the Frequency (One Level Up)

Not to bliss. Not to joy. Not to delusional positivity.

Just one rung up the ladder.

From fear → neutrality

From shame → self-compassion

From overwhelm → groundedness

From numb → curiosity

From tension → softening

Imagine your whole body turning the dial one click upward. This creates the internal space your thoughts can follow — naturally, without forcing anything.

Ready to Shift in Person?

If this stirred something in you… if it feels like truth you’ve known but couldn’t articulate… if you’re tired of looping the same patterns you’re “too aware” to still be stuck in — this work is exactly what Spark. MindShift was built for.

Inside the 8-week coaching program, we go far deeper into: